I’m a big believer that children, including babies thrive on structure. When Avery and Poppy were babies I had them sleeping through the night up to 12 hours by 9 weeks old using the Baby Wise Method. With Goldie, my life was chaotic and I didn’t sleep train her. According to my family she was the worst sleeper, ever.. Fast forward 7 years with Ozzy and I knew I wanted to sleep train her. Having so many on-the-go older siblings, it was important to Jeff and I that Ozzy be in a routine.
We started sleep training several times with no follow through. At one point Goldie asked us to get some duct tape for Ozzy (they share a room, haha). We decided to wait until school was out and just go for it. So at 2.5 months we began training her to sleep through the night. I was ready to start getting some sleep again myself and lose these bags under my eyes. We have been working with Tiffany Jaeger on creating a personalized schedule for Ozzy. It’s essentially the same method as Baby Wise, but was nice to have someone to consult and talk this through with. She really works hard to get your baby on the same schedule as your household, my number one goal.
Our household wakes up around 6:45 am. Tiffany told me that this is now Ozzy’s new wakeup time, no matter what time her last wake up was. This way, no matter what I have going on, pickups and drop offs with the kids, meetings, or appointments, Ozzy’s schedule is always predictable. We have been waking Ozzy up at 7 am, so she is up with everyone. And feedings have been every three hours and we keep them at the same time every day.
One of the most important parts of sleep training is to create a solid napper. Naps can be tricky for us. There are many days where I feel like I’ve been in the car all day (welcome to California) but we try to make sure she gets in two solid naps at home during the day. Tiffany was able to draft up a pretty detailed schedule that is extremely fitting for our family and our lifestyle. The best reminder from her was to set reminders for myself. In my phone, I’ve set alarms for Ozzy’s feeding times and nap times. This has helped me so much the past few weeks being busy with the school year wrapping up.
These past few weeks have been a consistent cycle of EAT, PLAY, SLEEP:
We feed everything three hours, and Ozzy usually takes about 35 minutes to feed and burp. Including feeding, Tiffany recommended 45-50 minutes of awake and play time until her next sleep. The biggest struggle is keeping Ozzy awake while she’s eating. But if they fall asleep while eating, training is game over. We will play with her hands, rub her ears, take off her clothes so she’s just in a diaper, whatever it takes to keep her awake and eating.
Tiffany says absolutely NO rocking to sleep. Although, I’m guilty of doing this. Since it had been so long since my last newborn, I really wanted to soak in all of the moments I missed so much. And there really isn’t anything sweeter than a fresh baby falling asleep in your arms. Currently trying to break this habit, it may be the hardest part for Jeff and I.
Night time is a bit different than during the day. Since Goldie and Ozzy share a room, we’ve been trying to align their bedtime schedules. Tiffany suggested starting Ozzy’s routine an hour earlier than Gold’s. I start to lay Ozzy down around 7, I will pat her to sleep and usually let her cry it out for a bit. But this way, when Goldie starts bedtime at 8, Ozzy is for sure asleep. CIO (cry it out) is a bit of a controversial topic and I know there are mixed opinions. I personally think it helps babies learn to self soothe and become independent. If you have another option that works, that’s amazing too!
Consistency is key and what works for us. Sleep training is not for the faint of heart, it’s difficult and tests your patience, but so worth it for the long stretches of sleep, a happy baby, and happy parents. Find what works best for your lifestyle and your family! We had already been consistent in the eating every three hours so when it was time to get her sleeping through the night, it literally took 5 days of consistency at night by letting her cry it out and she is now a baby who sleeps through the night!
Also, I know these photos are of Ozzy in the SNOO and yes, she loves it. It’s really awesome, however I stopped using the motion of the SNOO and just using it as a bassinet so Ozzy could get used to sleeping in her own crib. I still turn it on for the white noise in motion for some naps or when she’s particularly fussy at nap time. Calms her right down. The EAT PLAY SLEEP method works with any crib/bassinet.
Thanks for reading. Have a great week!
16 thoughts on “How to Sleep Train Your Newborn”
Thank you so much- this was so helpful! So just a quick question… when you sleep train her at night do you just let her cry herself back to sleep if she wakes up crying for food? We have pretty much that same schedule during the day, but she is still up every 3 hours or so at night. I would love a full nights sleep!!!
For a few weeks I added a dream feed around 9 or 10 pm. Her last feeding was around 7 then I’d lay her down to sleep at 745/8 and wake her up again around 10 and feed her again. Usually the amount was less by 2 oz because she was too tired to eat. If/when she woke in the night I would put her binky back in and pat her stomach telling her she was safe and I loved her. Just a calm voice, but I didn’t pick her up. She usually calmed right down and fell back asleep. Then she got used to the binky being put back in and was waking up every few mins. So I quit giving her the binky and let her cry it out. It never lasted longer than 15 mins before she would fall back asleep. Took just a couple of nights once I eliminated dream feed and binky before she slept through the night. It makes such a difference. She now wakes up in the morning all smiles, no crying and is super patient before she is fed. I think it’s because she’s well rested. Good luck!
Did Goldie ever wake through any of the dream feeds or Ozzy getting her hunky taken away?
I moved Goldie into Avery’s room for a few nights and so I could do this with Ozzy without disrupting Goldie. It worked great. I also waited until school was out to avoid waking the house up on school night. xxo
Hi! How old was your baby when you did this? I have a six week old, been following eat play sleep religiously, but using a binky and my guy waking up every two-three hours. I’m fine with letting him cry a bit, I just wasn’t sure if he was too young?
Not hunky, binky. Lol
Hey Lisa, if Ozzy is sleeping for a nap during the day and sleeps longer than usual which would then disrupt her eating every 3 hours, would you wake her from a nap?
Love your postbaby posts! Can you write one on outfits post baby?
Best thing ever. Self sooth is a trait that they can take with them for life. The lady that helped me swear by a silk “lovey” also.
Sleep is the best gift for the entire family. 🙂
Hi! Did you like having the SNOO for a certain period of time for sleep training or is it more beneficial to just have a regular bassinet next to the bed? I want to sleep train but also am interested in the Snoo.
When did you stop using the motion on it?
we started around 2 months with ozzy .my other girls I started around week 3 and they are better sleepers than Ozzy has been. The SNOO is great for the first 6-8 months, so not very long. x
Hi Lisa! I have the snoo but want to not use the rocking feature so I can sleep train. I have a 10 day old. Do you recommend cry it out for naps as well?
Do you suggest getting a SNOO if wanting to sleep train? Do you think it gave you better quality sleep during those first few months? I am tempted to get one (having my first baby) but they are so expensive.
I do not think you need a SNOO to sleep train. My older girls were sleep trained in their cribs and are better sleepers than Ozzy has been. Hope this helps.